Finding Support for Pregnancy Loss
Pregnancy loss is something you don’t really think about until it happens to you. On November 17, 2017, we learned at 20 weeks pregnant, that something was wrong with our baby Hope and she wasn’t going to make it. That evening I went home and was at a complete loss. I prayed over and over and over again. Not really for God to “fix” what we were going through – but for him to hold me. I just kept praying, “Please hold me.” “Please guide us through this.” “Please help us understand what we can’t.” Then, two nights later, as I lay in bed holding my baby bump and praying, I heard a visible whisper that said: “I’m here.”
It wasn’t my husband and to this day I can only explain it was a voice from above. The next day I quickly created this printable and it’s sat in our kitchen ever since. God is there. He is holding us and guiding us no matter what – and THANK GOD for that.
Share pregnancy loss with those you trust
Finding support for pregnancy loss is important. Whether it’s through an online community, whether you share pregnancy loss with friends or by writing, or just giving yourself permission to grieve and heal in whatever way is best for you.
If you’re experiencing pregnancy loss, know that it is absolutely NOTHING you did. At all. Do what you need to do in order to grieve. You can share pregnancy loss with family and friends, you can turn inward and keep it to yourself, you find support for pregnancy loss from someone who has been there, or from the support of a counselor. I did all of the above when we found out about Hope. My husband and I began couple’s counseling (which was lifesaving) and I shared our story on Instagram.
Remember you are not alone
This print is a reminder that we are never alone. You tragically share pregnancy loss with 1 out of 4 moms out there. You can grab this printable for free HERE, or below. It’s 5×7 but will also fit in a 4×6 frame. Frame it, share it as a card with a friend, or just keep it on your desk. If you ever need someone to talk to or someone to listen to your story, I am here. Feel free to DM me on Instagram or email me at AppleSlices4th@gmail.com.
We will honor Hope as much as we possibly can and celebrate all the good things to come. No matter what, never stop believing in the good. Even when (or especially when) it’s hard.
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One of the first date nights my husband and I took after losing our baby girl, Hope, was to get tattoos in honor of her. It was slightly reckless and spur of the moment and everything we needed in that time. And I love having this sweet reminder on me at all times. “There is hope. Should oceans rise and mountains fall. He never fails.” #nevergiveupHope?
Cards and Advice for Supporting Someone Dealing with Miscarriage or Pregnancy Loss
Depending on how far along your friend was when they lost their child, they may need more or less support. Either way, letting them know you’re there for them and that you understand they’re sad goes a long way. By sending them little cards every day, or every few days, you’ll show them that you haven’t forgotten about what they experienced and have…